Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Perspective
I had this thought when I was walking home from work on Monday,we had all started back to our places,schools and work and I was just thinking about the boys and age.

 I can remember thinking that at every stage when the boys were growing up that they were getting older....milestones they passed,birthdays,changing schools etc were all too obvious signs to me that the boys were growing up fast,much too fast for my liking.

If it were left to me I would have slowed time right down so that I could have savoured their childhood even more then I did.
They were just so precious I wanted to hold it all oh so tight and drink them all in and I so wanted to remember them,their sleepy little yawns,their cute sayings,their sweet voices,the way they walked,the way they fed as tiny babes,their first gummy smiles,all the incy tincy bits that made them 'them'
 
I often think Tiger would probably never been born at all if it were left up to me!

I loved being pregnant even through the morning sickness and the near  pre-eclampsia and I used to feel that my baby was safe from everything whilst I was carrying it.
Every where I went they went too and I liked it that way.
I knew that the moment they were born and that umbilical cord was snipped the big bad world would slowly but surely begin to impact on my sweet baby and also the slow but gradual pulling away from me would begin.

But as we all know these babies have to come out and they begin to grow and change on nearly a daily basis,especially during those early days.

I was never one to rush any of my boys on with any milestones,in the job I do it is all too apparent how quickly children grow...blink and you miss them!

I did however fall into the trap of thinking as each progressing stage went by that they were getting old for want of a better word.

Kinda like this.... when they weaned I felt that the milky baby days had gone....when they took their first steps they became toddlers....the transition to nursery,then school to juniors to comp and even finally leaving school at each step I felt that they were so old...not in a grown up way but in a bittersweet way where I virtually mourned yet another stage of their precious childhood going.

And then I had Chipmunk!

There was a 7yr age gap between Chipmunk and Sharky and a 11yr age gap between Tiger and Chipmunk and as I watched him grow I truly realised just how young they still are at a year old and at nursery age and even at 7,8 and 9yrs old.

Because I could so easily compare him to his two older brothers.
When I looked at them,I could see that five years old was nothing compared with 16years old and so forth and it gave me a different perspective completely on age in general.

When I look back at photos of Tiger at junior school I realise how young he actually was,whilst at the time I thought he was quite grown up!

When I think about my mum being a grandma at my age I think how very young she was to become a grandma.

When I see Tiger approaching 21,the same age I was when I met his father,I think how very young I was and also how very old I thought I was!

I can remember having Tiger at the age of twenty seven and thinking I was sooo old!These days I think I was quite young to have a baby at twenty seven,certainly not old!

And this leads me to wonder if when I get to the age of seventy or more (god willing) will I think forty seven is young?Probably!

It's all a matter perspective isn't it!

What do you think?


25 comments:

  1. #PoCoLo Blink and it is gone! I still can't believe that I am married with two children....where did the time go? Just looking at my youngest the time seems to be rushing by. A lovely post.

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    1. Hiya Margot!Thank you for saying my post was lovely,that really put a smile on my face this morning as I contemplated a ouchy day ahead!
      Yep time flies doesnt it...and I dont know about you but to me its a case of the older I get,the quicker time seems to fly!Too scary,days,months and years whizzing by..best make the most of this precious time eh! :-)

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  2. A lovely post. Its good to reflect like this from time to time, it makes us appreciate each moment in life. #PoCoLo xx

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    1. Thanks Karen,sometimes things happen and you sit and refect your way round the thoughts that swirl in your head.I seem to do this a lot,perhaps thats why a blog is a good idea!

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  3. A really brilliant descriptive post, life does truly go past in a flash #PoCoLo

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    1. Ah thanks Nichola,Im glad you liked it.Yep I guess that's one thing for sure,time stops for no man or woman!And it really does fly by in a blink!Guess we have to make the most of it while we can x

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  4. yes well i find alot of older people still think they are young a quote i often hear im a thirty year old trapped in a 70 year olds body! time just flies by before your eyes! #pocolo x

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    1. Hi Sarah,yes that will be the next stage,me using that very same saying... Yeah but in my head im only 21....when in reality I will be 71!Hee!Thanks for commenting :-)

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  5. This is such a lovely reflective post. I try not to think too hard about Grace getting older and just try and enjoy her 'in the moment'. I still don't believe that I am nearly 42 - in myself I still feel around 27 (the days when I get some sleep that is!!). Thank you for linking up to PoCoLo xx

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    1. Hi Tori,I think you are so right to think of Grace 'in the moment' I wish I could do this more,its something I do have to make a concious effort to do.And when I had Chips I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't let myself get sad about him being my last baby.I felt I had been given a true extra gift and gifts shouldn't involve sadness should they!Its all quite a bittersweet experience for me,this kids growing up stuff!This is why I like catching my kids lives on my blog :-)

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  6. It's all relative! I remember freaking out when I turned 30. This year I will be 37 and 30 sounds great! Each stage has it's blessings for sure!

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    1. Hee,that is so true Stephanie!It is all relative!Wise words!:-)

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    1. Thanks Jaime!Time whizzing by and these kids growing like weeds,if only I could slow time down!

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  8. Time goes far too quickly for my liking. I used to be the ultimate planner but since having my boys am trying to relax a bit and take each day as it comes. It seems that life sometimes drags us forward way too quickly.

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    1. Hi!Oh doesnt time fly so much and the kids seem to grow so blinking fast!Not a thing we can do though,is there.The only thing that mollifies me ids doing as much with them as possible,then I know that I have made the most of our precious time together,thanks for commenting x

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  9. This certainly made me think! I definitely must enjoy the baby days while they last. My daughter has just started solid food, and soon she'll be crawling and then walking - maybe I should go and wake her up for a cuddle...

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    1. Hi Judith,you made me really smile with that last bit of your comment.It does seem like the children grow so fast doesn't it!Almost like they are on a conveyor belt with all their milestones zooming by!Make the most of them is what I say,snap lots of photos and be with them as much as you can,lets enjoy them while we can :-)#pocolo

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  10. Sometimes I wish I could slow time down a little to savour it and really enjoy these special days. I suppose that fact that we can't just means we should purposefully enjoy every second doesn't it?

    Love the phrase milky baby days by the way, I know EXACTLY what you mean. Stopping by from #PoCoLo a great read x

    Kate
    Just Pirouette and Carry On...

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    1. Thanks for your kind words Kate.Yes if only we could slow time down,but as we all know that just aint gonna happen,so as you said all we can do is live purposefully when we can!And that's what I propose to do this weekend,your words will be there to anchor my floaty head to the here and now X

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  11. Lovely post and I totally agree it is all a matter or perspective, my boys will still be my babies even when they're fourty!

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    1. Thanks for your lovely comment and you made me so chuckle...yes my boys will always be my babies no matter how old or how tall they get!Im quite a titch and two of them tower me now but shhhh dont tell them that...I pretend Im still as big as them...what a dreamer!!!!

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  12. So true! Ever since Peanut has arrived (almost 12 months ago) it feels like every day is gone in a matter of seconds. I still feel like I ma 25 though :-) And discovering the world through his eyes makes me feel old and young at the same time. Hopping over from #PoCoLo.

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    1. Hiya Blueberetmum!I did try to find out your name but had a epic fail,so I'll just go with the said title.I really agree with your comment about children making you feel old and young at the same time,isn't it peculiar,true though! X

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  13. I agree. I am 23 and feel old alot of the time, I watch the girls grow, wonder how they got the then booom they suddenly become alot older without me even noticing. x

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